Prevent Someone from Doing Something

Understanding Ethical and Effective Intervention Strategies

Introduction

Sometimes, we encounter situations where a friend, family member, or colleague is about to engage in a harmful, risky, or inappropriate action. Knowing how to prevent someone from doing something — without damaging trust or escalating conflict — is a valuable life skill.

Key Principles

Respect autonomy: Never force or manipulate—focus on influence, not control.
Communicate clearly: Use “I” statements to express concern (e.g., “I’m worried when you…”).
Understand motives: Ask why they want to do it—often, the real issue lies beneath the surface.
Offer alternatives: Suggest safer or more constructive options.

Practical Strategies

Active Listening

Show genuine interest. People are more open to advice when they feel heard.

Set Boundaries

“I can’t support that choice, but I’m here for you if you reconsider.”

Use Natural Consequences

Help them see realistic outcomes of their actions—not threats, but facts.

Seek Support

In serious cases (e.g., self-harm, addiction), involve professionals or trusted allies.

What NOT to Do

Don’t shame, guilt-trip, or yell—it often backfires.
Avoid ultimatums unless absolutely necessary.
Never physically intervene unless there’s immediate danger.
Don’t ignore your own safety or emotional limits.

Real-Life Examples

Example 1: A teen wants to skip school. Instead of punishment, a parent says: “I get you’re frustrated, but missing class hurts your future. What’s really going on?”

Example 2: A coworker plans to send an angry email. You say: “Want to sleep on it? Once sent, it can’t be undone.”